Episode 30: Love Me Hate Me

So I'm going to write about people who love you, and people who hate you. you may ask, what about those who doesn't love us or hate us? well, the in-betweens know nothing about you. fullstop.

What is love? looked up in Merriem-Webster, and this came up, well not the whole thing, I'm trying to stay in context here.

"strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (maternal love for a child); attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers; affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests."

They love you for what you are, or for what you do, or maybe they just love your how you look. So what about hate? Merriem-Webster go! and this came up.

"intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury; extreme dislike or antipathy."

Okay that is kinda short, but no matter. I'm not trying to address each individually, but rather their interrelations with one another. so similar yet so different. the subject of observation for this is definitely men, men as in human beings, so we can see how these two emotional outputs correlate.

Too much technicality kills. duh. okay, skip to the hard part. you fall in love, and you love your other half so much you can't see how this beautiful relationship could be broken. so somehow somewhere some things went wrong and the two of you end up separated. then what?

some people swallow things up nicely, some don't. well that's normal. some get over it, others? hmm.. for the lots that can't let things go, love will eventually turn to hate. different situations give rise to different circumstances, so feel free to think of your own. but basically it's the same. 1 person will hate the other. or they both hate each other. every faults of the past now surface. :)

now let's do a reverse engineering of love-hate relationship. xD well i don't know the mechanisms of this phenomenon but certainly there are people out who used to hate somebody, and with time came to love them. perhaps it's a similar thing. hate closes your perspective to BAD, WRONG, ASSHOLE, JERK, BITCH etc etc. but once you notice a positive point, this 'plus' amplifies itself greatly. so hate, turns to love. bittersweet ain't it. :)

and the best part is, both love and hate have something in common. and while most people who 'hate' hate to admit this (sorry, can't resist the pun xD) it's true. they are both OBSESSIONS.

the love part is pretty simple. the one that needs to be shed some light on is hate. hate? an obsession? what? why? well someone might say this, "I hate him! why would I be obessed with him? this is ridiculous! I never want to see him again! and I'm NOT obsessed with him!!"

funny thing is this girl said 'him' 4 times. of course every time she mentioned him the mental pictures of this wanker came up in her mind, right? :)

This particular idea of hate being an obsession is widely used. in fictions and real life as well. some people made you hate them just so that you will think of them. and you definitely took the bait. that is just us. took us less time to hate than to love. that is human flaw. :) i always smiled listening to 'Hate That I Love You' by Rihanna. ironically true. and this vicious love-hate cycle is bound to repeat itself, whether we want it or not.

Cheers~